Though all the Mothers of the Believers are incredible women who have much to teach us with their example, I’ve always felt the most attached to the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) wife Sayyidah Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her). There are so many lessons from her example, and so many things to admire about her life. She had her own independent career, she took the means when she saw the character of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), she supported the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) when he first received revelation and gave him advice, she gave her wealth when the clan of Banu Hashim was being boycotted, she raised her daughters with love and care, the list goes on of her amazing character and accomplishments.
Over the past few days I’ve been thinking about Sayyidah Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) a lot because I’ve been reading Tariq Ramadan’s biography “In the Footsteps of the Prophet”. I’ve started it before, but in the past I’ve only read it partway through before school papers have claimed my attention once more. In this reading, as in readings before, I find Tariq Ramadan’s description and reflections about Sayyidah Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) to be beautiful, and well worth a moment of reflection. Her example is a lesson of the importance of balance, and how excellence in one’s career, family, marriage, community involvement, and pursuit of sacred knowledge is possible.
Below is my favourite passage from the book about Sayyidah Khadijah’s (may Allah be pleased with her) beautiful example:
“Khadijah was to be the first to accept Islam, and throughout the first ten years of Muhammad’s mission she was to remain at his side, an unfailingly faithful companion. This woman’s role in the Prophet’s life was tremendous. She was for twenty-five years, his only wife, whose presence alone protected the Prophet but who also underwent with him rejection by his kin, persecution and isolation. He loved her so much. This was so obvious that, many years after Khadijah’s death, Aishah – who later married the Prophet – was to say that Khadijah was the only woman of whom she had ever been jealous. Khadijah received the good news of his election by God; she was a woman, independent, dignified and respected, then a wife, strong, attentive, faithful and confident; she was a pious Muslim, sincere, determined, and enduring. Muhammad, the last Prophet of the One, was not alone, and one of the clearest signs of God’s bounty and love for him was a woman in his life, his wife.
~Tariq Ramadan, In the Footsteps of the Prophet, p.35.