Gems from Sidi Amjad Tarsin’s Khutbah “Where is the Love?”

Every time I listen to content from the Muslim Chaplaincy at the University of Toronto, my heart fills with joy, and I wonder why I don’t visit their SoundCloud page more often. Masha’Allah, the Chaplaincy content is relevant, practical and full of mercy, and I’m so glad it’s accessible to people like myself who live outside the Toronto area. (To sustain the Muslim Chaplaincy, you can learn more here) Below, my notes from their Feb 7th Khutba titled “Where is the Love.”

  • Be mindful of Allah. Every blessing we have is a manifestation of His generosity. And every blessing we have, and every luxury we enjoy should be used in His service and gratitude.
  • To proceed, one of the most important responsibilities we have as an ummah, as a community of believers is mutual love and concern for one another.
  • As the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him said:  “None of you truly believes until you love for brother and sister what you love for yourself”. That extends to a brother or sister in humanity, and the rights we owe brothers and sisters in faith is even greater. The sincere concern we should express for one another is even greater.
  • Allah says in the Qu’ran: Indeed the believers, are brothers and sisters.” The bond of faith is greater than an intellectual agreement. It goes deeper than that. Our bond is rooted in the Real. We owe one another rights and we owe one another love. We owe it to love one another.
  • Sometimes we hear this and think it applies to someone else. Very easy for nafs to say other people are falling short. But we need to talk about I can improve, how we can improve. When we improve, the benefit will spread by Allah’s Grace.
  • Need to ask ourselves: How much love, how much sincere concern do I have for my brothers and sisters? And this is a duty. This is a duty we have to Allah and His Messenger and to one another, to have love for one another. We have to ask ourselves, how much love and concern am I showing?
  • The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him when he would sit with his companions, he would ask about people, he would notice when people were missing. When someone was sick, the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him would say, lets go visit them. It was a community that was built upon love and reverence of Allah, and it permeated and translated into the way that they treated one another. Which is why we are still benefiting from the fruits of their love and reverence 1400 years later in Canada. We have a responsibility to live that way, to care for one another and have that sincere love for one another.
  • We have to have that sincere concern for everyone, for people we don’t agree with, for people who may be falling short. It’s easy to show love to people who show goodness to us, who agree with us.
  • There was a companion that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him pointed out as a person who was granted Paradise. He didn’t perform extraordinary acts of worship, but when asked what he did for the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him to have pointed him out in this way, he responded saying, “I can’t think of anything special, but every night before bed I forgive everyone who has wronged me. “

  • How many of us can pray all day and fast all day, (and these are great things), but we hold grudges in our heart against our brothers and sisters, or we think ill of other Muslims? That’s not completion. That’s not what the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him taught us. It’s not easy, especially when wronged to do this. We may think, I can’t wait till what goes around, comes around. But that’s not the appropriate response. That’s the response that feeds the nafs.
  • Today lets all make the intention to say “O Allah, forgive all people who have wronged us and forgive us for all the people we have wronged.” And maybe Allah will make that the key that takes us to Paradise.
  • We have to recognise, and be mindful of, the importance of love. We often talk about community and building community and establishing community.. that is critical but it’s not going to happen without love and sincere concern for one another.
  • This doesn’t mean we have moral relativism and that everything every Muslim does is ok. It doesn’t mean that wrong isn’t harmful. It means that despite wrong,  we recognize a person as brother or sister and love them and want good for them. When a person hits rock bottom, and looking for help and way out,  the last thing we can do to them is to say, “sorry the bus is gone, you’ve missed your opportunity, you’re on your own.” When someone has hit rock bottom, that’s when they are in most need of our love.We’re not the gatekeepers of Allah’s Paradise. We don’t have the right to say that to anyone.
  • If we truly love and care for one another, then we have the responsibility to say I’m here for you when you need me the most.
  • How many people have been turned away from religion by other people?
  • The Prophet peace and blessings be upon him, said “My intercession on the Day of Judgement is for the people who commit major sins.”  None of us should feel safe for major sins.
  • We have to reflect on the states of our hearts. How we care about one another. How we honor one another. How we respect one another. Because that is something that is firmly rooted in the Book and the Sunna where Allah teaches we need to show love to one another.
  • If you read Surah Hujarat, it’s all about our social duties to one another. All about how we have to honor one another and not look down upon one another, and not be suspicious of one another. How many of these things have become commonplace? Where we can look down on one another and say, “You’re not dressed the right way, praying the right way etc?
  • We have to be people whose hearts are open. We need to be people whose hearts are full of mercy and whose hearts are full of light so that people can say I need your help. Your presence brings me peace, your love brings me comfort. That’s the ummah of Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.
  • When some of the worst enemies of Islam became Muslim, the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him welcomed with open arms. To Ikrimah, son of Abu Jahl, (someone who fought Islam till the end)  the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him said: ” I knew that your father had some good in him”. And he told the Companions, don’t insult his father because it will hurt his feelings.
  • The door is open. And far be it that when someone wants to come closer to Allah, that we block them from His door. We have to be careful.
  • We have to actively be people whose hearts are full of love and compassion and mercy so that people can feel that, they can experience that from being in the presence of the Muslims and they can say I want that peace, I want that love, I want that mercy in my life. But if we’re not representations of that, people will say I don’t want none of that. And if that’s the case, then we’ve been ill representatives of Allah and His Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him
  • The likeness of the believers in their love, their mutual love, their mercy and their compassion is like one body. We have to, when we greet one another we have to smile. We have to have an open heart. Some days it’s easier than others but we have to actively  attempt it first. And then what happens? Mutual love, mutual respect spreads.
  • I guarantee you the rules aren’t the problem, sometimes it’s the people  who try to convey the rules, and say you have to do it my way. But if people feel like there is love, mercy, understanding, respect, that I can be part of this community, then despite differences, we feel like one. Being one is not having one big conference we all go to together, being one is getting rid of the egos so that we can love one other truly and prefer each other over our own selves. That’s how it’s going to happen.
  • When we do that, you see the beautiful expressions of true faith in our lives, in our families, in our mosques, in our communities, in our marriages, in our  friendships, in our dealings with neighbours, in our dealings with  those of other faiths around us. Then we become shining examples of faith for all those us to see.
  • Allah describes the believers – “their state of being is seen on their faces.”  People will see that tranquility, they’ll feel that love, that peace, they’ll see that light, and they’ll say ” I want what you have. I want more of that. Can I come in?” And (in response) we say: “Ahlan wa sahlan. This is God’s door. Everyone is welcome in.”
  • The tent of Islam is a big tent. The ummah of Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him is a big ummah. Just like the bedouin man who said “Oh Allah forgive me and Muhammad and no one else”. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him laughed and said “you’ve made something very narrow which in reality is very vast.” Lets not make the door of Allah narrow. Lets not make our hearts narrow. Lets not make our treatment of one another narrow. Be someone who is giving. Be someone who wants good for other people. That’s how we have to be. That’s how the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him was, there’s no doubt about it.
  • Practical take -away is to reflect on the Prophetic character and to find one beautiful quality that we can all adopt. Smiling at one another. Forgive one another. Let it go. It may be making dua for someone you’ve harmed. We need to work on ourselves. We need to be people who our very existence is of benefit to others. That happens when we have love and mercy and compassion in our hearts. May Allah grant us the tawfiq to do that.

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